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Loneliness
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than just the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected, and/or alienated from other people, so that it feels difficult or even impossible to have any form of meaningful human contact. Lonely people often feel empty or hollow inside. Feelings of separation or isolation from the world are common amongst those that are lonely. The first record of the word "lonely" being used was in a play by William Shakespeare.
Loneliness should not be equated with being alone. Everyone has times when they are alone for situational reasons, or because they have chosen to be alone. Being alone can be experienced as positive, pleasurable, and emotionally nourishing if it is under the individual's control. Solitude is the state of being alone and secluded from other people, and often implies having made a conscious choice to be alone.
Common causes
People can experience loneliness for many reasons. The first experience of loneliness for most people is the first time they are left to themselves as a baby.
All kinds of life events seem to be related to loneliness. Loneliness is a very common response to divorce or the breakup of any important long-term relationship. Loneliness can be a response to a specific situation or event, such as the death or extended absence of a loved one. Loneliness may also occur after the birth of a child, after marriage or after any minor or major life event.
Loneliness can occur in marriages or similar close relationships where there is anger/resentment or a lack of "loving" communication.
Paradoxically, loneliness frequently occurs in heavily populated cities; in these cities many people feel utterly alone and cut off, even when surrounded by thousands or even millions of other people.
Loneliness can also result from low self-esteem or from being valued for shallow external reasons that have little or no connection to the person inside.
Some say that loneliness has become a major problem of modern times. At the beginning of the last century families were typically larger, and very few people lived alone. Today however, the trend has reversed direction: over a quarter of the U.S. population lived alone in 1998. In 1995, 24 million Americans lived in single-person households; by 2010, it is estimated that number will have increased to around 31 million.
It's not just a problem of more people living alone. Familial connections are much more tenuous than they used to be. Nowadays, it is not at all unusual for family members to be separated by hundreds or even thousands of miles.
Learning to cope with these changes in life patterns is essential in overcoming loneliness.
Loneliness as the Human Condition?
Chronic loneliness (as opposed to the normal loneliness everyone feels from time to time) is a serious, life-threatening condition. It is a major risk factor in artery erosion, high blood pressure, and stress-related conditions such as heart disease, hypertension, and stroke.
In 2005, results from the U.S. Framingham Heart Study demonstrated that lonely men had raised levels of IL-6, a blood chemical linked to heart disease.
Loneliness can play a part in alcoholism, and in children a lack of social connections is directly linked to several forms of antisocial and self-destructive behavior, most notably leaving school early (dropping out), along with hostile and delinquent behavior. In both children and adults, loneliness often has a negative impact on learning and memory. It can have a devastating effect on sleep patterns, and thus on the ability to function in everyday life.
Various studies have revealed that loneliness is implicated in a wide range of medical problems, some of which may not be symptomatic for years. One particularly remarkable finding, from a survey conducted by John Cacioppo who is a psychologist at the University of Chicago, is that doctors say they provide better medical care to patients who have a strong network of family and friends than they do to patients who are alone.
Among many other negative effects of loneliness, one of the most important is depression.
Treatment
It is often posited that loneliness is "the only disease that can be cured by adding two or more cases together."
Often, people mitigate loneliness by interacting with others via the Internet. However, it is widely believed that purely online relationships are no substitute for in-person relationships, an opinion based at least partially on the fact that a person's true identity is very difficult to determine on the Internet.
To the extent that loneliness is caused by depression, it may be helped by similar treatments, such as various forms of psychotherapy, pharmacotherapy (anti-depressant medications), or both.
Another treatment for both loneliness and depression is pet therapy, or animal-assisted therapy, as it is more formally known. Some studies and surveys, as well as anecdotal evidence provided by volunteer and community organizations, indicate that the presence of animal companions -- dogs, cats, and even rabbits or guinea pigs -- can ease feelings of depression and loneliness among elderly people in nursing homes, for example. According to the Centers for Disease Control, there are a number of health benefits associated with pet ownership: In addition to easing feelings of loneliness (because of the increased opportunities for socializing with other pet owners, in addition to the companionship the animal provides), having a pet is associated with lowered blood pressure and decreased levels of cholesterol and triglycerides.
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p.sBi ve zamomlila za temelni odgovori...
se razlichni termini. "Samotija", znachi: da se bide sam, bez prijateli
i rodnini. "Osamenost", znachi: da se bide osamen i pokraj mnogubrojnite bliski lugje, koi ne okruzhuvaat. Samotijata i osamenosta
se del od zhivotot i sekoj chovek gi ispituva vo nekoj period.
Dodeka, pojavite na strav od samotija ili osamenost se psihichki disorderi t.e. fobii: Autofobia (strav od samotija) i Monofobia (strav
od osamenost).
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| Originally posted by Enigma "Samotija" (alone), "Osamenost" (loneliness) i stravta od ovie pojavi, se razlichni termini. "Samotija", znachi: da se bide sam, bez prijateli i rodnini. "Osamenost", znachi: da se bide osamen i pokraj mnogubrojnite bliski lugje, koi ne okruzhuvaat. Samotijata i osamenosta se del od zhivotot i sekoj chovek gi ispituva vo nekoj period. Dodeka, pojavite na strav od samotija ili osamenost se psihichki disorderi t.e. fobii: Autofobia (strav od samotija) i Monofobia (strav od osamenost). |
Enigma,
Znam deka se razlicni termini, ali rekov da ne postavuvam nov Topic pa zatoa site tri prashanja go postaviv ovdeka. Shto se odnesuva na mene, eve veke 11 godini sum vo USA, kade shto imalo momenti koga sum ziveela i bila sama, a imalo i koga ne bilo taka. Vo isto vreme, ke izlazam, ako kazam deka ne sum bila osamena na momenti. Sepak nie doagame od razlicna kultura, i posebno koga edna osoba zivee vo drugo opshtestvo i vo grad so populacija od 16mil. normalno e da covek se oseka taka an pocetok. No, godinite si go nosat svoeto. A vo isto vreme e do individualnosta da ja pobies taa osamenost, zato sto toa moze da ti nadonese red drugi raboti, problemi itd itd. Isto taka golem fakot e i dokoklu ne si sama i imash partner-koj ti e voopshto partner?...Porano bev vo vrska od 7 god. sto e strasno dolg period, i iako imav nekoja osoba do mene fizicki so koja mozes da delish i pravish mnogu raboti i da ne se osekash osameno...jas fizichki izlgedav srekno pred nekoi osobi, a duhovno patev. ne bevme vo nikoj pogeld kompatabilni, i nekoi se prashuvaa zashto voopsto izdrzav so edna osoba tolku vreme. Prvo sum dobar drugar i prijatel pred se, i sekogas veruvam deka nesho moze da uspee ili da se podobri dokolku mnogu se trudam. Dali e toa zabuluda ili ne neznam, vtoro sum lojalna i dosta teshko se otkazuvam od raboti...uporna sum...i dosta trud vloziv vo nesho sto nemashe spas.Preumorna bev da davam od sebe 110%, a da ne mi bide vozvrateno. Kade idam so ova? Sakam da kazam deka...bez razlika na fizichkata prisutnost na taa osoba, jas bev osamnea. Osamenost edna osoba moze i da pocustuva ne samo vo vrska, toa moze da se desi i na rabotno mesto ili slicno. No, strav od osamenost ili pak da bidam sama nekikad nemalo i zatoa izdruzvam. So tekot na vremeto nauciv da me ispolnuvaat mali neshta...da ne gi nabrojuvam se nadevam deka se razibrame...Se "frliv" na rabota, citanje, druzenje, i red drugi raboti shto me ispolnuvaat vo isto vreme...Medzu seto toa, zapoznav licnost koja nesamo sto mi go razubave zivotot, pridonese ni za mig da ne se osekam osamena.Naprotiv, osekam vo mene golem mir, spokoj i stabilnost....Shto se odnesuva pak za drushtvo ili kolegi na primer...kolku covek poveke staree tolku e poselektiven koi ti se vsushnost prijateli i na koi mozes da se oslonish vo nekoi takvi migovi...So tek na vreme pocnav da gi iskljucuvam site faktori i negativna energija shto bi mozele da doprinesat da jas se osekam osamena. Dokolku bi se pojavil nekoj problem, nauciv da go razglabam na sitni detljai i da go reshavam so zdrav razum, bez panicenje ili bez bilo koja rabota koja bi mozela da doprinese do depresija, osamenost, izoliranost, itd-koi se posebni definicii....Neznam kade idam so ova, cisto pisuvam sve sho mi paga na um.:)
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Originally posted by sasha
Enigma, Znam deka se razlicni termini, ali rekov da ne postavuvam nov Topic pa zatoa site tri prashanja go postaviv ovdeka. Shto se odnesuva na mene, eve veke 11 godini sum vo USA, kade shto imalo momenti koga sum ziveela i bila sama, a imalo i koga ne bilo taka. Vo isto vreme, ke izlazam, ako kazam deka ne sum bila osamena na momenti. Sepak nie doagame od razlicna kultura, i posebno koga edna osoba zivee vo drugo opshtestvo i vo grad so populacija od 16mil. normalno e da covek se oseka taka an pocetok. No, godinite si go nosat svoeto. A vo isto vreme e do individualnosta da ja pobies taa osamenost, zato sto toa moze da ti nadonese red drugi raboti, problemi itd itd. Isto taka golem fakot e i dokoklu ne si sama i imash partner-koj ti e voopshto partner?...Porano bev vo vrska od 7 god. sto e strasno dolg period, i iako imav nekoja osoba do mene fizicki so koja mozes da delish i pravish mnogu raboti i da ne se osekash osameno...jas fizichki izlgedav srekno pred nekoi osobi, a duhovno patev. ne bevme vo nikoj pogeld kompatabilni, i nekoi se prashuvaa zashto voopsto izdrzav so edna osoba tolku vreme. Prvo sum dobar drugar i prijatel pred se, i sekogas veruvam deka nesho moze da uspee ili da se podobri dokolku mnogu se trudam. Dali e toa zabuluda ili ne neznam, vtoro sum lojalna i dosta teshko se otkazuvam od raboti...uporna sum...i dosta trud vloziv vo nesho sto nemashe spas.Preumorna bev da davam od sebe 110%, a da ne mi bide vozvrateno. Kade idam so ova? Sakam da kazam deka...bez razlika na fizichkata prisutnost na taa osoba, jas bev osamnea. Osamenost edna osoba moze i da pocustuva ne samo vo vrska, toa moze da se desi i na rabotno mesto ili slicno. No, strav od osamenost ili pak da bidam sama nekikad nemalo i zatoa izdruzvam. So tekot na vremeto nauciv da me ispolnuvaat mali neshta...da ne gi nabrojuvam se nadevam deka se razibrame...Se "frliv" na rabota, citanje, druzenje, i red drugi raboti shto me ispolnuvaat vo isto vreme...Medzu seto toa, zapoznav licnost koja nesamo sto mi go razubave zivotot, pridonese ni za mig da ne se osekam osamena.Naprotiv, osekam vo mene golem mir, spokoj i stabilnost....Shto se odnesuva pak za drushtvo ili kolegi na primer...kolku covek poveke staree tolku e poselektiven koi ti se vsushnost prijateli i na koi mozes da se oslonish vo nekoi takvi migovi...So tek na vreme pocnav da gi iskljucuvam site faktori i negativna energija shto bi mozele da doprinesat da jas se osekam osamena. Dokolku bi se pojavil nekoj problem, nauciv da go razglabam na sitni detljai i da go reshavam so zdrav razum, bez panicenje ili bez bilo koja rabota koja bi mozela da doprinese do depresija, osamenost, izoliranost, itd-koi se posebni definicii....Neznam kade idam so ova, cisto pisuvam sve sho mi paga na um.:) |
Sasha, dobro si zabelezhala: chovekot e sekogash osamen i nema drug chovek ili plotska
ljubov na svetov, koi mozhat da ja ispolnat chovechkata dusha. Od svojata najrana mladost,
chovekot e vo potraga po "srodna dusha", poradi shto menuva prijateli i zhivotni partneri,
i ponekogash za mig se chini ja naogja, no vo momentot koga kje pomisli deka ja
ima, svakja deka osamenosta nikade ne otishla, zashto dushata ostanala pusta. Imeno, osamenosta e pustina vo dushata, povedena od vrodenoto chuvstvo na intuicija, deka
nekomu pripagja, a toj "nekoj" odsustvuva, i go bara, no ne go naogja. Se obiduva da ja
ponishti osamenosta vo tugjite chovechki ochi i srca, no taa pobeduva i ostanuva kako
ogromna praznina, koja navistina postojano i tivko boli. Sepak, chovekot od vreme na
vreme zaborava na osamenosta, odavajki se na zabavi, alkohol i drugi razvlechenija, so
cel da go izbegne chuvstvoto shto boli. No, osobeno koga nastapuva bolest, pa duri i
najmal grip, chovekot znae, deka toj iako ne e sam, vo bolesta svoja e osamen, kakov
shto e vo mladosta, radosta, bolkata i starosta. Zatoa, nie praznuvame rodendeni i
svetski praznici, da ja podelime radosta so nekogo, no odkako kje se razotitat gostite,
pak i pak, ostanuvame so svojata osamenost. Mnogu lugje, za ova chuvstvo gi osuduvaat
roditelite ili partenerot (soprugot) i semejstvoto, zatoa gi napushtaat roditelite
i se razveduvaat. Dushata ne e materijalna i nishto od materijalniot svet ne mozhe sushtinski da ja nahrani. Taa mozhe vistinski da bide zadovolna i srekjna, samo ispolneta so duh, t.e. so Bozhjiot Duh. Dushata, pred da mu bide dadena na chovekot, postoela vo Bozhjiot razum, koj ja vsadil vo nea intuicijata i mu dal duh na chovekot, za vechno da go bara svojot Tvorec, komu pripagja. Neduhovniot chovek ne e vo sostojba da ja sogleda realnosta i chestopati mu se protivi na svojot duh, a ponekogash izvrshuva duhovno samoubistvo, ostavajki go gladen i zheden, i odavajki se na lazhni uchenja.
Vo sushtina, dushata nesvesno go bara Boga, Koj mozhe da ja isponi, oblagorodi i usovrshi.
Od moe lichno iskustvo, vistina ti velam: so Boga chovekot nikogash ne e osamenen i
nishto ne e strashno.
Odlicno napisano. A so poslednata recenica znam sto sakas da mi kazes. Si se razbirame jas i ti:)
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| Sasha, dobro si zabelezhala: chovekot e sekogash osamen i nema drug chovek ili plotska ljubov na svetov, koi mozhat da ja ispolnat chovechkata dusha. Od svojata najrana mladost, chovekot e vo potraga po "srodna dusha", poradi shto menuva prijateli i zhivotni partneri, i ponekogash za mig se chini ja naogja, no vo momentot koga kje pomisli deka ja ima, svakja deka osamenosta nikade ne otishla, zashto dushata ostanala pusta. Imeno, osamenosta e pustina vo dushata, povedena od vrodenoto chuvstvo na intuicija, deka nekomu pripagja, a toj "nekoj" odsustvuva, i go bara, no ne go naogja. Se obiduva da ja ponishti osamenosta vo tugjite chovechki ochi i srca, no taa pobeduva i ostanuva kako ogromna praznina, koja navistina postojano i tivko boli. Sepak, chovekot od vreme na vreme zaborava na osamenosta, odavajki se na zabavi, alkohol i drugi razvlechenija, so cel da go izbegne chuvstvoto shto boli. No, osobeno koga nastapuva bolest, pa duri i najmal grip, chovekot znae, deka toj iako ne e sam, vo bolesta svoja e osamen, kakov shto e vo mladosta, radosta, bolkata i starosta. Zatoa, nie praznuvame rodendeni i svetski praznici, da ja podelime radosta so nekogo, no odkako kje se razotitat gostite, pak i pak, ostanuvame so svojata osamenost. Mnogu lugje, za ova chuvstvo gi osuduvaat roditelite ili partenerot (soprugot) i semejstvoto, zatoa gi napushtaat roditelite i se razveduvaat. Dushata ne e materijalna i nishto od materijalniot svet ne mozhe sushtinski da ja nahrani. Taa mozhe vistinski da bide zadovolna i srekjna, samo ispolneta so duh, t.e. so Bozhjiot Duh. Dushata, pred da mu bide dadena na chovekot, postoela vo Bozhjiot razum, koj ja vsadil vo nea intuicijata i mu dal duh na chovekot, za vechno da go bara svojot Tvorec, komu pripagja. Neduhovniot chovek ne e vo sostojba da ja sogleda realnosta i chestopati mu se protivi na svojot duh, a ponekogash izvrshuva duhovno samoubistvo, ostavajki go gladen i zheden, i odavajki se na lazhni uchenja. Vo sushtina, dushata nesvesno go bara Boga, Koj mozhe da ja isponi, oblagorodi i usovrshi. Od moe lichno iskustvo, vistina ti velam: so Boga chovekot nikogash ne e osamenen i nishto ne e strashno. |
prvana boldirana recenica ti se protivit so najstarata prikazna od Biblijata za nastanokot na covekot ADAM i EVA...koja e celta na EVA???da mu mijat nozete na ADAM???Pa covece bozji prekni da lutas i da shiris propagadni bezvezni!Kasno e ama ako forsiras ke objasnime podetalno utre ko ke sme poosvezeni!!
drugana boldirana recenica....
ma koj bozji razum bre???????
i ne znam zs ama osekam deka si go raskaza tvojov zivot so postov
ajt od sabajlecki ke se razberime so arno
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Originally posted by RaGeAnGeL
prvana boldirana recenica ti se protivit so najstarata prikazna od Biblijata za nastanokot na covekot ADAM i EVA...koja e celta na EVA???da mu mijat nozete na ADAM???Pa covece bozji prekni da lutas i da shiris propagadni bezvezni!Kasno e ama ako forsiras ke objasnime podetalno utre ko ke sme poosvezeni!! drugana boldirana recenica.... ma koj bozji razum bre??????? i ne znam zs ama osekam deka si go raskaza tvojov zivot so postov ajt od sabajlecki ke se razberime so arno |
Moite rechenici ni najmalku ne i protivrechat na Biblijata, za nastanokot na chovekot i
voobshto, ami potpolno se vo soglasnost. Tuku, ti ne ja razbirash Biblijata, ni moite
zborovi, pa od umot svoj izveduvash mudrosti.